52 Hikes, Part 2: Covid-safe family hiking in Palm Springs (and beyond!)

February 28, 2021

This year I set a goal of taking 52 different hikes with my family. You can read Part 1 here, which is about our 11 hikes in January.

That brings us to February, one of the best hiking months in Palm Springs. It’s post-holidays, so the trails aren’t crawling with people, and it’s pre-summer, so the trails aren’t crawling with rattlesnakes. Perfection!

Here are the 8 hikes we did this month.

Keep in mind: 
• These hikes are family-friendly, meaning they were good for my family. They are not necessarily stroller accessible or toddler-friendly. 
• I’m strategic about when and where I hike. Some popular trails get heavy traffic throughout the day, and I don’t feel comfortable on narrow paths with people who might not be wearing masks. So I go early or late.
• Don’t take my distance as gospel. Hiking with a 6-year-old child involves a fair amount of wandering, so your mileage might vary. 
• Do check check a website like AllTrails for current trail conditions. I always look the map to get an idea of the terrain, and I read the most recent comments for any relevant info. 
• Please wear a mask when you encounter others on the trail.


North Lykken to Falls View, Palm Springs • 6 miles

We accessed this via the trailhead on Cielo Road, which is located in my favorite Palm Springs neighborhood. From here the journey appears so charming and not at all like the brutal killer it is.

I kid. Kind of.

After a quick but steep climb, the trail leads you through Chino Canyon, which is an isolated and tranquil part of Palm Springs. It’s particularly dreamy when wildflowers are in bloom and the whole canyon looks like a screensaver.

Okay, here’s the killer part: The hike was pleasant out through the canyon but surprisingly strenuous on the return. I partially attribute this to a lack of snacks and an unseasonably warm February day, but wow. Just watch out for that. We should have turned back long before I turned into a hangry goblin.

Lake Calavera Loop, Oceanside • 4.3 miles

We spent Presidents’ Day weekend in a remote yurt, which was wonderful and gave us new places to explore.

I really loved this trail system because it was a great mix of well-maintained, easy trails and wilderness with rock scrambling and overgrown parts. Also you can’t beat the excellent view from the top.

However, so few people were wearing masks that I wondered if Oceanside had defeated the virus and didn’t tell anyone.

The trail had heavy traffic at the beginning and end, but we were able to maintain good distance on offshoot trails in between.

Los Jilgueros Loop, Fallbrook • 1.2 miles

A quick loop around a sweet nature preserve. It seemed to be a popular place for birders.

Roadrunner/Chuckwalla Loop, Rancho Mirage • 3.1 miles

A picturesque trail system that ambles through the mountains around the Ritz Carlton — a five-star view for free!

Aside: We didn’t make that rock heart that you see in the photo, because I teach Everest to leave only footprints. But he was happy to stumble upon it!

Araby Trail, Palm Springs • 3 miles

This trail takes you past the Bob Hope home, a mushroomy modernist masterpiece, and into the hills beyond the residence. It’s so fun, especially in the spring when the hills are lush and verdant. Also it holds some surprises. I won’t spoil them for you.

Continue toward Berns Trail Lookout for a longer loop, which we did not do.

North Lykken Loop, Palm Springs • 1.4 miles

There are a lot of ways to access the Lykken in Palm Springs. For this hike, we used the trailhead on Ramon Road, and it was an entirely different experience than the North Lykken loop we hiked earlier in the month.

My son had such a great time here, because there were dozens of offshoot trails to explore, outcroppings to climb, and plenty of adventures to be had. Plus there are spectacular views of downtown Palm Springs throughout. We didn’t cover much distance, but we spent a few hours having the best time.

We could have continued this hike north, where it meets up with the Museum Trail. Instead we followed the map on AllTrails to make this a true loop, ascending via the steep dirt trail and returning on the stone “road.”

South Lykken, Palm Springs • 3.6 miles

I personally refer to this as Middle Lykken, because there’s another South Lykken trailhead at Oswit Canyon.

This is my very favorite trail in Palm Springs, because it’s both challenging but rewarding, and it’s always spectacular. Over the past few years, it’s rare to hike here and not see bighorn sheep, although you might have to keep your eyes peeled. (Other times, they walk right across the trail!)

Note: There’s no parking at the trailhead, so park on Mesquite close to Palm Canyon, near the Happy Traveler RV Park, and walk up the street until it dead-ends at the mountain.

Pushawalla Palms Loop, Coachella Valley Preserve • 4.6 miles

This trail is like traveling through an actual metaphor — you have to trudge through the desert to get to an oasis.

Multiple oases, to be accurate.

Follow a slender ridge along the top of a bluff before descending to the Pushawalla Palms grove on the desert floor. This is a cool oasis with water that has been brought to the surface from the San Andreas Fault.

Along the way back, you’ll pass through another collection of full-skirted palms and see even more water. Here we had a snack, lolled in the shade from the trees, and watched a flock of Gambel’s quail skitter about — a respite from the rest of the world.

52 Hikes, Part 1: Covid-safe family hiking in Palm Springs

January 31, 2021

I hike a lot, but I tend to stick to the same trails. I’m sure there’s a metaphor there.

So I set a goal to hike 52 different trails this year. Part of that was to force myself out of my comfort zone, but I think it’s also necessary for Covid times. Even though I can’t travel far, I still want to explore, I want to have new experiences, and I need to feel like I’m having an adventure.

It’s important for me to cultivate that for my 6-year-old son as well.

At the same time, we want to be safe and maintain distance from others, which is an additional bonus of 52 different hikes. Although I ticked some popular hikes off my list this month, I think this will push me to find some lesser-known trails and ultimately explore my area without encountering a lot of people.

Here’s how we did in January:

A few things to keep in mind:
• These hikes are family-friendly, meaning they were good for my family, but these trails are not necessarily accessible for things like strollers.
• I’m strategic about when and where I hike. Some of the popular trails get a heavy amount of traffic throughout the day, and I don’t feel comfortable on narrow paths with people who might not be wearing masks. Those are the trails we hike at dawn.
• Don’t take my distance as gospel. Hiking with a 6-year-old child involves a fair amount of wandering, so your mileage might vary.
• In each case, I’d recommend checking a site like AllTrails for current trail conditions. I always look the map to get an idea of the terrain, and I read the most recent comments for any pertinent info.
• Please wear a mask when you encounter others on the trail.

Bighorn overlook, Rancho Mirage • 1.3 miles

We kicked off the new year with a quick hike to watch the sun rise over the valley.

There’s easy-peasy parking at City Hall, and the hike is a mild, half-mile jaunt up to the overlook, which connects to other trails.

Bogert Trail, Palm Springs • 1.8 miles

Bogert offers a pretty overlook of south Palm Springs and leads to junctions with several other trails. We opted to do this as a moderate loop, with the first half on the mountain, the rest on residential streets.

Randall Henderson Trail, Palm Desert • 2.8 miles

This one is a favorite, and we’ve been doing it since E was just a wee little guy, so I think it’s appropriate for many ages.

The trailhead begins at Friends of the Desert Mountains. The visitor center and parking lot were closed, but parking is available across the street or along the side of the road. (It is a very busy road, though. Be careful.)

Oswit Canyon, Palm Springs • 3.2 miles

I love Oswit Canyon, and I’m grateful to everyone who worked hard to save it from becoming a housing development.

This hike is particularly great during covid times, because there’s not one particular trail that takes you back into the canyon. Basically everything is a trail, so you can really maintain distance from other hikers.

It’s also a gradual climb (you don’t even realize you’ve gained elevation until you look back), and it feels like a real escape from the rest of the world. Bighorn sheep sightings are not uncommon.

Fish Traps Archeological Site, Thermal • 1 mile

This wasn’t much of a hike, but wow, was it cool. We found petroglyphs (and modern graffiti, sadly), shells, broken pottery, and best of all — hundreds of fish traps! Yes, in the desert.

Back when ancient Lake Cahuilla was here, the Cahuilla Indians crafted these ingenious stone traps to catch fish. You can learn all about that here.

Goat Trails, Palm Springs • 3.2 miles

These trails go on forever and branch off into multiple other trails, and I don’t even remember which path we took. Only that we reached an old horse corral that I’ve never seen before, and it was in the middle of nowhere.

This area is heavily trafficked, but the first section is wide. Then once the trail begins to branch off, it’s easy to maintain distance from others.

Earl Henderson Trail, Palm Springs • 2.3 miles

When I first moved to Palm Springs, I ran this trail multiple times a week. Unlike a lot of other trails here, it’s hilly; not a relentless, glute-killing climb. It’s also in the shadow of the mountain, so it remains cool on hot mornings.

Mission Creek to Stone House, Mission Creek Preserve • 3.6 miles

Mission Creek is a dreamy place, often overlooked in favor of other parks and preserves, and that’s fine with me. My son could spend hours tossing rocks into the creek, floating leaves in the water, falling off logs into the mud.

The main path will take you along the creek, next to desert wetlands that are popular with birdwatchers, and past historic structures to the Stone House. (Believe it or not, this used to be a dude ranch/resort.)

The trail near the Stone House links up with the Pacific Crest Trail, so you can pull a Cheryl Strayed and just keep going if you want.

Hidden Palm Oasis, Thousand Palms • 3.8 miles

This hike’s name is no joke. You’re walking along a bleached, somewhat barren landscape, then you head down a slope and SURPRISE! A hidden palm oasis. And it’s glorious too. Cool, breezy, a nice stop for a snack.

We’ve also seen a lot of horned lizards on this hike, and we love horned lizards for being the most metal of all creatures. Here, I’ll let you see for yourself.

McCallum Trail, Thousand Palms • 3.4 miles

This out-and-back trail at the Coachella Valley Preserve will take you to a large pond that is fed by underground springs (the result of seismic activity along the San Andreas Fault). Kind of. Right now the pond is closed due to desert pupfish reintroduction.

We continued beyond the pond toward Vista Point and Moon Country trails, then decided to save Moon Country for another day.

I always get a thrill at the beginning of this hike, which starts by the now-closed visitor center. An elevated wooden platform leads you through a marshy oasis with small ponds and shaggy palm trees. It looks and feels otherworldly, like Ewoks might hop out of the trees.

Bump and Grind, Palm Desert • 4.3 miles

This moderate trail is great for some serious exercise, but it’s also uncomfortably crowded. I once saw an entire bachelorette party on the trail — Mardi Gras beads, water bottles with penis straws, bridal veils and satin sashes, the whole bit.

We hiked this loop at dawn, and it still had too many hikers for my taste. On the plus side, this trail branches off into some other excellent Palm Desert trails, it offers a picturesque view of the town, and it’s easy to find and centrally located.

The top is closed every year from February 1 to April 30 for Bighorn sheep lambing season. We lucked out and made this hike on Jan. 31, so we were able to do the full loop. My son struggled around the 1-mile mark, but we took it slow and made frequent stops until we made it.

The Year in Music: 2020 WTF Was That? Edition

December 28, 2020

I started this year like so many of us — by declaring that 2020 was going to be my year.

Narrator: It wasn’t.

Good things happened, bad things happened, and all of it seemed to be a slog. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you about it.

Overall I was scattered and unfocused, and that was the same story with the media I consumed too. I plowed through The Great, only to stop with two episodes to go. I left more books unfinished than read. (I was so proud of myself for starting War & Peace, and then I gave up like eight pages later.) There was a two-month dry spell where I didn’t listen to any music beyond my Quarantine & Chill mix.

That said, every December I write a post listing my favorite new songs, and I have fun doing it. So here we are!

Note: For the past couple years, I’ve mashed up my favorite books with my favorite songs for a year-end wrap-up extravaganza. But in 2020 I just can’t make that work. I’m not even going to try.

If you want to know some of my favorite books of 2020 (ones I DID finish!), you can check them out here. For my favorite tunes? Keep going.

The River • Goth Babe

I listened to this song in February on a flight to San Francisco, when the world felt ripe with promise. I was working on a travel piece for a magazine, and I was thrilled about the assignment, the editor, the fine hotels where I’d be staying, old friends, multi-course meals, sexy cocktails, all of it.

It was the same weekend the city declared a state of emergency due to a growing number of Covid-19 cases.

I polled my friends on Instagram: “Should I be concerned about coronavirus?”

“Nah, just wash your hands,” most of them said.

My story never ran. The magazine has now folded. And I am concerned about coronavirus. But this song was right there with me, teetering on the edge before we plunged into the deep end.

Color My Life • Chicano Batman

In the early days of lockdown, I was diligent about being not sober. This song accompanied me on those nights.

Woo! • Remi Wolf

I know I’m not the only one who experienced this pandemic as a rollercoaster. This song was for the high points — the giddy whoosh of days that didn’t seem so hard, the good writing days or the sunny beach days — when I couldn’t feel gravity holding me down.

Say So • Doja Cat

I had a little crush on someone this spring, and that person loved this song. I still get fluttery stomach feelings whenever I hear it.

Without You • Perfume Genius

A sweet and sad confection, like getting to the middle of a Blo-Pop.

Cheap Regrets • The Districts

Here’s more of that roller coaster I was talking about. But here we’re heading down the hill.

How Will I Rest in Peace If I’m Buried By a Highway • KennyHoopla

Right about the time I felt like a glass bottle full of screams, I heard this song for the first time and instantly added it to my Spotify queue. KennyHoopla electrifies me, like a modern Bloc Party but better.

Lovefool • twocolors

I just like a good cover, and this one makes me feel like I’m a cool person who goes to clubs and NOT someone who longs for bed at 8:45 (a.m.)

IN MY ROOM! • Tatiana Hazel

Obviously this song resonates.

I am so tired of my walls.

Interstellar Love • The Avalanches ft. Leon Bridges

This is maybe the best song that samples the Alan Parsons Project that I’ve heard all year. (Fine. It’s probably the only song this year that samples the Alan Parsons Project.)

Anyway, I love everything in this layered, space-age love song, including Leon Bridges, whose voice can transport me to other galaxies.

Loner • Dehd

I get a Siouxsie Sioux vibe from lead singer Emily Kempf. Then a reviewer said this song is a spiritual cousin to “Only the Lonely,” and now I can’t shake the ghost of Roy Orbison when I listen to it.

This song is an ode to longing and loneliness, two things I’ve become intimately acquainted with in 2020. Bonus points for a video shot in Joshua Tree.

Lancaster Nights • Charlie Burg

Charlie Burg took an immersion blender to a big pot of soul, indie pop, and R&B, and the result is a creamy, comforting soup of everything I like.

Don’t Start Now • Dua Lipa

This is by far the song I listened to the most this year, and it is a direct result of spending so much damn time on the Peloton. I liked Dua Lipa before, but then I started hearing her songs in every pop ride, and it’s like anything on high rotation — one day you realize you’re a fan and you don’t even know how it happened.

(However, I distinctly remember the live DJ ride in January when Cody played air cowbell during this song, and I was IN.)

Virtual Aerobics • Wallows

Fun. Upbeat. And … it’s about a trip to San Francisco.

Wanna see music lists from previous years? Here’s 2019, 2018201720162015201420132012, and 2011.

How to cope with the anxiety of Election Day 2020

November 2, 2020

Here’s what I’m NOT doing this year on Election Day: Buying a bottle of champagne for a party. Watching the results. Feeling hopeful.

I did all of those things in 2016, and now they are cursed. Yes, even hope.

This time around, I can’t do it again. I just can’t.

According to my research (that is, tweets from my friends), a lot of us are in this emotional place. Right about now we’re looking for healthy distractions and self-care strategies to cope with Election Day 2020.

Here are some ideas to keep from doomscrolling all Tuesday long:

Meditate. Maybe you’re wondering, “Why in the world would I want to sit with my own thoughts right now?”

Because it’s like the past several months have been the anxiety playoffs, and now it’s The Big Game. This is go time. Your stress just beer-bonged a Gatorade and is in top form.

Meditation helps counteract the stress response in the body, instantly decreasing the heart rate, dropping blood pressure, and quieting the mind. Headspace has a great explanation of this here.

If you’re new to meditation, Dan Harris has an election-themed starter pack here. I’m also a fan of the free app Insight Timer, which has a huge library of guided meditations, as well as a no-frills meditation timer. It’s also great for sleep, which brings me to …

Nap. I’m an emotional sleeper. Maybe you are too.

Sometimes when I feel myself shutting down from the world, the best thing to do is shut everything off and get some rest. Even a quick coffee nap can help. (What? You’ve never heard of coffee naps? Here, allow me to change your life.)

Get physical. Channel all that energy into something that will only makes you stronger. I’ve bookmarked some 90-minute Peloton classes. My friend Kristi is running her own half-marathon. Maybe there’s a mountain you can climb or a new trail to explore.

Snacks. Self-explanatory and entirely your choice. But I’m from the Midwest, so I lean toward anything that involves a potato.

Remind your friends and family to vote. Yeah, a lot of us have already voted, but give a nudge to your pals who haven’t.

Dive into a good book. I’m a fan of transportive nonfiction, so I recommend Catfish and MandalaSpirit Run, and Welcome to the Goddamn Ice Cube. Also here’s a shameless plug for my own book.

If fiction is more your thing, I was blown away recently by Interior Chinatown and The Vanishing Half.

Vote. I mean, you’ve voted, right?

Scream. Did you know there’s a website where you can record yourself screaming and then someone will release your scream into the vast wilderness in Iceland?

It is precisely what I needed to tide me over until my Anger Barn (um … a barn where I can smash dishes) becomes a reality. Thank you, Internet.

Bathe. This is the day bath bombs were created for. Let those suckers fizz.

Get inspired. Read this letter from Heather Cox Richardson. It did give me a little bit of that h-word that rhymes with “nope.”

Do something. It’s not a total distraction from Election Day, but you can still help get out the vote in key states. Being part of the process is empowering.

Be patient. Remember that we probably won’t have results on Election Night. Don’t contribute to the noise, don’t spread of rumors and unverified news, and don’t panic. Axios has some good tips for navigating this time.

Please for the love of pete, go vote.

The Not-So-Haunted House

October 31, 2020

Since it’s Halloween, let me tell you the story of the haunted house that wasn’t. 

Two years ago, Everest was 4, and somehow he determined that he desperately wanted to go to a haunted house.

However, this is a child who gets spooked easily — he squeezes his eyes shut and covers his ears during parts of “Moana.” So I knew better than to take him to the Bloody Frightmare Serial Killer Corn Maze or some such thing that would traumatize him for life. 

Then I saw an ad from a restaurant here called Dringk or Drangk, (I can never remember which one), promoting their kid-friendly activities, including a haunted house. 

The ad specifically said, “Come and enjoy our haunted house.” 

I told Everest about it, and he was stoked. For a couple weeks, he talked about the haunted house nonstop and bragged that he was going to be so brave. I smiled and agreed, even though I knew this was a rather vanilla place in a pedestrian mall we were talking about here. I figured this would be a spooky corner with construction paper spiders. Maybe a witch would pop out from behind a screen. BOOM. Haunted house, done.

On Halloween night, we got dressed up and headed out early to beat the crowds. Everest chattered about the haunted house the whole way there. 

We were the first people to arrive at Dringk/Drangk, so I asked the hostess if we could do the haunted house before sitting down to dinner. 

“We don’t have a haunted house,” she said. 

I pulled out the ad. 

“This says you do.” 

“No,” the hostess laughed. “I think they meant, like, enjoy the essence of a haunted house. Like, for a night we have the vibe of a haunted house.”

My son didn’t want a vibe. He wanted an actual haunted house.

I hissed and said something to that effect. And then I think I begged. I didn’t even need a good haunted house. Just something haunted-adjacent. A creepy warehouse. A cobwebby garage. Anything to prevent me from becoming the broken husk of a mom who just ruined Halloween.

“There’s a haunted house around the corner,” the hostess said. 

That’s all I needed to hear. I grabbed Everest’s hand and flew around the corner to another storefront marked with a simple haunted house sign. There was no line, which seemed unusual on Halloween. There was also no obvious sign about ticket prices, so I assumed it would be pricey. If I have to ask, it’s almost always too expensive. 

I pulled out my phone, logged on the wifi of a nearby BBQ place, and started searching for a Groupon. I was still scrolling through the phone when I flung open the door. 

Everest and I stepped inside. 

I thought there’d be a desk or a counter. At the very least, someone taking money. But there wasn’t. 

It was empty. 

The walls were draped with sheets and there were blood splatters everywhere. We saw a few hospital bed-looking things, but nobody was in them. 

“Hello?” I called out.

Nobody answered.

We walked further into the building. 

Silence.

I thought maybe this was part of the thing, so I braced myself for the maniacal, chainsaw-wielding surgeon to come raring out of the shadows. 

Nothing. 

I approached another set of drapes, and my muscles stiffened as I imagined every monster that might leap at us, every gory, unholy thing that I might find. I tugged a sheet back.

Again, nothing. Imagine being on a roller coaster and the drop never comes. 

“Mommy, this is weird.”

I exhaled. He was right. An abandoned fake haunted house in an outdoor mall was very weird. 

“Let’s go, baby.” I tugged on E’s hand and led him out of the building. 

It was genuinely the scariest haunted house I’ve ever been to, because anticipating the worst turned out to be worse than any masked man or howling ghoul. That’s where real terror exists —in everything I conjured and how I held that dread in my body. Not what happened.

As for Everest, he still believes himself to be very brave. But now he also thinks haunted houses are boring.